Friday, October 6, 2017

A Narcissist’s Guide to Helping Others Understand It Is All About You

Dana Milbank at the Washington Post performs a public service in A Narcissist’s Guide to Helping Others Understand It Is All About You. (h/t Jana Eaton)

Excerpted from “The Me-Driven Life: A Narcissist’s Guide to Helping Others Understand It Is All About You,” by John Barron.

Reprinted without permission.

Chapter 12, “Coping with Natural and Man-Made Disasters,” pp 269–277

I’ll toss you some teasers - think visually - just as Trump lobbed rolls of paper towels to the Puerto Ricans on Tuesday.

Natural disasters and their man-made counterparts (mass shootings, terrorist attacks) pose an obvious challenge for those living the Me-Driven Life. These events are frustrating, and inconvenient, because they tend to cause those people to think about their own problems: their injuries, the loss of loved ones, their hunger, thirst, discomfort, life-threatening cholera, what have you.

This is a common character flaw, and it is harmful because it distracts them from their more pressing obligation to think about you.

Visual aids can help. If people need food, for example, don’t just hand out bags of rice and paper towels. Make a show of it! Toss supplies through the air as if shooting baskets. If people gather at the scene of disaster, make them all appear to be your fans simply by saying “What a crowd!” or “What a turnout!”

Don’t hesitate to remind others of your importance to them. Say that everything you’re spending to help them has “thrown our budget a little out of whack.” Remind them that they “owe a lot of money” and “we’re going to have to wipe that out.”

Now go read all of Milbank’s guide.

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